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Category Archives: Relationship

Tricks Impress Girlfriend

Respect Her

Respecting each other is essential if you want to develop your relationship. Respect breeds love. As a matter of fact, you have to give respect to your girlfriend if you want to win her love. This way she will love you more. What you need to do is respect her life, her decisions and her feelings. In return, you will get the same.

Surprise Her

Most girls like surprises. You can surprise her in many ways. For instance, you can go to her house to see her without even informing her beforehand. Aside from this, you can send some flowers at her address. Another way to surprise her is to take her out for a dinner.

Listen To her

Most girls love to talk. Therefore, you should have good ears. Make sure you be all ears to her when she is saying something to you. It doesn’t what she is talking about, you just need to listen to her. If she describes some of her problems, make sure you give her tips to resolve those problems. Keep in mind that talking to each other will make the bond between you and her stronger.

Give Her Time

It’s important that you give time to your girlfriend. Most girls complain, “He doesn’t have time for me.” As a matter of time, time is what she needs from you. What you need to do is adjust your schedule in a way that you can give her some time on a regular basis. You don’t necessarily have to see her in person. You can call her for a few minutes each day. Your love and time is all what she needs to stay with you.

Some Reasons You Still Single

You run your dating life like a boardroom.

What they want in their personal lives often includes a man who is at least as successful as they are, taller than they are, and who will pursue them. But it’s sometimes difficult for these women to actually let the man take the lead like they say they want him to do. Just to make it clear, I’m not telling these women that they need to let a man pursue them; these women are telling me that they’re frustrated by men who don’t pursue them.

So what’s the problem? While they like the idea in theory of letting a man pursue them, they get very frustrated if he doesn’t pursue them on their timeline and in the manner of their preference. They have “talks” with men who they don’t feel are “doing enough” – much like they’d have a chat with an underperforming employee.

But you cannot dictate pursuit. You cannot complain to someone that he isn’t pursuing you. If you do, then he’s only pursuing because you told him to, in which case he is following your directions – which is almost the opposite of pursuit.

If you want to call the shots, fine with me – I’m not here to judge, I’m here to help clients get (almost) whatever they want! But if you want him to lead, you can’t tell him how to do it. This doesn’t mean you have to sit around waiting, though. If he isn’t pursuing you the way you want, date others who will! But don’t tell him to pursue you and then feel surprised when you’re both sensing the awkward tension that will inevitably arise.

Telling a man to pursue you is like telling him how to lead. By doing so, you are actually leading – and depriving yourself of what you’re really craving.

You over-invest in a man who hasn’t even asked you to be in a relationship.

The reason many women have trouble just distancing themselves from a man who isn’t pursuing them is because they’ve over-invested themselves in the relationship before the man has earned the investment. They’ve quit dating other people simply because their “favorite” is requesting a lot of dates.

What they don’t think about is that just going on five or six really fun dates where each time you go a little further physically is totally enticing to men, but it doesn’t mean anything in terms of the man’s interest or ability to make a commitment. It can get even more confusing if the man has been saying things like, “I see myself getting married and settling down sometime in the next few years.” The women sometimes misinterpret this as having a talk about his goals and interests pertaining to them specifically.

Like it or not, women have a biological tendency to become commitment-oriented sooner than men when they start having great sex (oxytocin – we’ve all heard about it!). So if you’re having great sex and the man mentions the future, perhaps even invites you to a friend’s wedding or to meet his parents when they visit him next month, your heart can quickly go in limbo.

My advice: If you meet someone special, consider taking things really s-l-o-w. Don’t quit dating other people till he asks you, and if he doesn’t ask you, take that as information about either a) his interest in you, b) his interest in commitment, or c) his ability to pursue and go after what he wants. A man must demonstrate ALL of the above if you’re looking for a committed relationship with someone who pursues you. This is what 99% of my female dating clients specifically tell me they want (a man who will pursue them), and if that’s you too, these tips may help you.

You haven’t let go of your ex.

Are you in a pattern of being “just friends” with someone you recently broke up with? If so, the texts, phone calls, and get-togethers could be holding you back from giving yourself wholeheartedly to single life and moving forward. If this is you, it’s time to leave the past behind. Instead of letting someone with whom a relationship hasn’t worked take up all your mental space, why not let go and direct your focus toward the possibility of a new relationship that will potentially be even better that the last?

You’re afraid.

Fear is a sneaky thing that could be sabotaging your love life without you even realizing. Dating requires vulnerability, and putting yourself out there without quite knowing what you’ll get in return can be scary. If you haven’t had the rosiest of endings in your past relationships, you could be looking at potential dates or new relationships from a fearful lens – whether the fear is being rejected or falling for the wrong person again.

Make Girl Addicted

Introduce a little intimacy

The best time to text her is to talk to her at night or when you know she’s in bed. Why? Because this is her most comfortable, sexy time – and when she’s likely to let down her guard with you. You can start out with just light flirting and chatting in the first few conversations, then progress to a little more suggestive conversation and get her to flirt back with you. If you see her responding in the positive… that’s a clear sign she’s into you.

Live a double life

Be a sexy naughty flirt at night, but when you see her in the day, don’t even mention the flirty stuff. Just talk casually and be cool – especially if there are friends around. You only should bring up flirtation when you two are alone – which convinces her that the two of you have a secret passionate love affair going on.

And no one needs to know but you two.

Don’t mention how much you like her

A lot of guys make this mistake, but the key is to not let on how much you like her. The second you tell her that, you’ll lose the suspense atmosphere you have created.

Ask her questions and get to know her

Being likable is important. The only way to do this is to bond with her over common interests. Talk to her and get to know her, asking questions about what she’s into. And what’s more, you should really take an interest. Be sure to remember what you hear from her. If she’s into sports, clothes, makeup, whatever – just find a way to connect with her on it. If it’s a topic you don’t know about yourself, don’t fret; just ask her more questions.

You can send her texts when you get her number asking her about her latest purchase or makeup choice, or maybe how she’s gotten her hair done. Try to keep the conversation on her, but if you find something you’re both into, more the better.

Dating Mistakes Of First Timers

Forgetting to properly introduce yourself

The next mistake that first timers make is forgetting to properly introduce themselves. Surely, talking to a stranger can sometimes be awkward. But, it is important for individuals to know that the best way to start a conversation is to introduce yourself properly. By doing so, individuals can gain better insights about you which can help you create a good relationship during your first date.

Neglecting to choose the right topics

There are also some individuals who neglect to choose the right topics and speed dating. Most speed dates only last for several minutes. Therefore, you need to make sure that you can give a good impression. To do so, you need to choose the right topics. This is important to help you know more about the person you are dating. In addition, choosing the right topic can also help you make sure that they will be interested in dating you again in the future.

Creating plans for the future

Finally, in case that you are interested with your date, you need to make sure to avoid creating future plans. This is also another essential factor since you do not know if the person you are dating wants to meet you again. So, before planning for the next date, take time to ask the person properly and politely to help you achieve your goals.

Information of Date Night

1. Do not talk about the kids, bills or work. This time is for the two of you to connect. Remember all the useless things you used to talk about when first dating? Do that. Or even better. Talk about where you are now. Ask open-ended questions. Take an active role in listening. You two chose each other. All the things that have happened over the course of the years surely have changed the both of you. Have you talked about them? Have you shared you deepest thoughts. Or did you hold back out of fear? The point that I am making is, talk about the real you. Make it all about the two of you tonight.

2. Get out of your comfort zone. Relationship routine can be deadly. Be open to spontaneous adventures. Nothing brings people together like new experiences. My wife and I were once at the state fair. We saw they had helicopter rides, and we both knew we had to do it. Out of the comfort zone and bucket list. Check! What about you?

3 Give a little get a little. If you have different ideas of fun, take turns each planning a date. Sure you may have to sit though something that may not excite you. But, how many times did you do that when you were first dating? To connect intimately, sometimes the best thing you can do is to simply give.

4. I can not state this enough. Please put the phone down. Nothing will kill date night faster than you taking a work call, checking a text or responding to an email. I know that sometimes this will be unavoidable, but make it the exception. If you do pull out your phone, take a picture because you’re having fun.

5. Should you double date? That’s entirely up to you. But again, date night is about building intimacy between you and your spouse. So yes to the double dating, but try to leave it to once a month.

6. How often should date night occur? Once a week is optimal. There is an old saying that states, “you should meditate 20 minutes everyday. If you’re too busy for 20 minutes, make it an hour.” I use the same principle for date night. Surely you can find 30 minutes a week for your spouse. Even if it’s just time for coffee and connection.

Surprising of Dating More

Often, these women are in a situation where actions speak louder than words. They may have been on a couple of dates with a man, and they are waiting to see if he’s going to take the first step in moving the relationship forward like they want him to do.

But the waiting game can get difficult, and while these women want or intend to wait, they give in to the impulse after their feelings get very strong. They decide to initiate the relationship talk instead of wait for the man to do so.

Ever been there? Like my female clients, you’ve probably felt disappointed after deciding to make that first move, no matter what the result, because you know the conversation would have felt better if the man had been the one with a strong enough focus on the topic to raise it himself and communicate his feelings – or at least his goals. Even men from the ’50s who weren’t big on “touchy feely” conversations were able to tell a woman clearly when they wanted to stop dating other people and start settling down.

The way to manage this impulse is to focus on others – by literally focusing your eyes on different men while you date others regularly – until or unless he verbally expresses and behaviorally demonstrates readiness, interest, and ability for commitment.

By actively continuing to date others until the one you really want communicates to you that he feels strongly for you too and that he’s in the same place in life regarding readiness for commitment (specifically marriage, if that’s how you feel), you will likely have an easier time maintaining balance while you “wait and see” if he’s going to make that move and ask you to take your relationship to the next level.

Boundaries in Dating

They define you

Boundaries show who you are and who you are not. Things with which you agree and disagree will be clear when there are boundaries. With dating boundaries in place, problems will be prevented before they happen. It is important to clarify your values, morals and preferences. Then it becomes easier to solve problems. Let people define you according to your own definitions of yourself.

Boundaries protect you

They enable you to keep in the things you want and keep out those you do not want. With the dating boundaries, toxic and unhealthy influences by people are kept out of your life. So you are not exposed to such toxic influences.

Boundaries help protect your heart. So you know what to let in and what to keep out. Within yourself, you have good treasures to guard and nurture. They include sincere love, which is your deepest capacity to trust and connect with others. You have your emotions to protect, which enable you to own your feelings and not allow someone else’s feelings to control you. Furthermore, you have your own important things, which we call values. Your life must express and reflect what you deeply care about. There is a need to have control over how you act in your dating relationship. So you have your own behaviors. Have freedom to express your own stances and opinions about yourself and your date. You have your own attitudes and you are the only one that is responsible for what is inside your boundaries. Your life is like a garden. So you need to weed out what is not important and that which is toxic. Nurture the good and develop it.

Stop Being Mr Nice Guy

Don’t Fight With Her

Do you really want to stop being Mr. Nice Guy? Then don’t fight. Seriously, don’t fight with her, instead, let her vent and then walk away. When she confronts you, tell her you’re not interested in a manipulation or discourse of anger. She’ll fume, she’ll want to talk it out, she’ll get mad, and you’ll look like a bad guy. But she will think about it and later apologize. That’s when you will accept her apologies, but you will be busy doing something else. Just don’t fight while trying to figure out stop being Mr. nice guy.

Take Time For Yourself

Do not just be waiting around for her to call you. In fact, make plans, and stick to them. Make plans, share them with her and then go do them. Do not wait for her to call to make plans, don’t wait for her to try and do things, you should be doing things on your own. Remember, you are an independent person and you are not a beggar. Too often guys wait for someone to call, or to give them some action. Don’t be that guy. Instead, do your own thing, go to museums, coffee shops, read books at libraries, and just be on your own without her. Even if you really want to be with her, don’t let her see it or you will be too nice.

Cougar Dating Guide

Know Your Stand in The Relation

Knowing the place, you have in your relationship with a cougar is one of the most important tips according to an ideal cougar dating guide. Generally, a cougar looks for such a man who can accompany her and entertain her. Don’t keep on imagining yourself as the eye candy, as you need to evolve too as the relationship progresses.

Don’t Go with The Misconception

Cougars only want sex is probably the most common misconception that young men have. But, as a lover and girlfriend, they too crave for attention, surprises, and actions to make them feel special. Sex is important, but don’t forget about winning her heart.

Be Mature and Act Like One

If you’re thinking that after starting to date a cougar you can act like an immature that you used to do with your young girlfriends, then you’re mistaking. It has been observed that the majority of the older women prefer young date partners who don’t act stupid or childishly. Talk and act like a mature man, as cougars aren’t some teenage girls you’re dating.

Don’t Hesitate to Act Bold

Believe it or not, but it’s the boldness that the older women like the most. So, it’s better not to hold yourself back from being bold if you want to get the attention of an older woman. Making a direct eye contact is the best thing to show a cougar that you have the aggression and boldness that they are looking for.

Ways to Avoid Friend Zone

They treat her like a princess!

If you never disagree with the girl, never express your own opinion, always feign interest in the topics that she brings up, even if they don’t interest you – the girl will notice this and won’t respect you.

If you’re constantly afraid of offending the girl or making her angry, always “walking on eggshells” so to speak – she’ll see that you are a spineless guy and lose all attraction towards you.

That’s exactly why “Bad Boys” get to have all the fun, while “Nice Guys” are left behind in the dust.

Bad Boys don’t fear rejection, aren’t afraid of offending people, of living life, of judgment from others. They don’t give a rat’s behind about what anyone thinks of them and they don’t filter their thoughts when they speak – they tell it like it is.

That is incredibly attractive to the vast majority of women, and exactly the reason why most girls fall for these so-called “rebels”.

They constantly doubt themselves!

Self-doubt is one of the most unattractive qualities that a man can possess.

If you can’t make decisions, question your every move, hesitate when talking to the girl, touching her, leading her, and other similar things – you’re not going to get anywhere!

Women don’t like guys who are wracked with insecurities and self-esteem issues. It’s best that you learn how to get those things handled!

They bore women half to death!

This is another huge mistake that most men make.

When talking to girls, they start asking all the boring, and uninspired questions like “Where are you from?”, “What do you do?”, “Where did you study?”, and so on and so forth.

Every girl has heard these questions a hundred times! You’re there to flirt, have a fun, interesting, and exciting conversation with her – and not to conduct an interview!

Refrain from asking the things that a thousand other guys have asked her – and learn some much-needed social skills that spice up a conversation. Skills like storytelling, joke telling, teasing, flirting, spiking emotions, etc.